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As a boy mom, gender equality and neutral parenting is something I care a lot about. First and foremost, it’s important to be a strong female role model for my own boys. But beyond that, I’m also mindful about the little influences we have around the house. I’m talking about books.

Have you noticed that the overwhelming majority of kids books are male-centric? I find far fewer books where girls are front and center, leading the pack, being the heros. Society already has gender stereotypes and the under-representation of females in books can perpetuate this. In fact, in the Time's list of the 100 Best Children's Books Of All Time, 68% of the books featured a male protagonist. Basically, not even a quarter of the "best children's books of all time" center around a female character! Furthermore, if they do feature girls, they play second fiddle to boys or are less likely to speak up. I find myself acutely aware of this and wonder what it means for my boys...

Without even realizing it, what if we are inadvertently raising children that perceive gender bias? The messages conveyed through over-representation of males and under-representation of females in books may skew children’s ideas of what it means to be a boy, girl, man, or woman.

 A small action I started taking in recent years is balancing the representation of books in our home library. I seek out kids books that depict a girl as the main character, a girl who fights to save the day, a girl with a bright idea, a girl who speaks her mind. At home, I also try to share stories of women who have done amazing things in real life (think Jhansi ki Rani, Malala Yousafzai, Marie Curie, Serena Williams, Hilary Clinton, the list goes on...but if we don't talk about it, they may not know!)

Below I share links to some sites which provide an excellent and comprehensive list of female character-centric books...to empower your girls and inspire your boys! :)



Has it happened that your kid has a look of utter boredom after actively playing with his/her toys and says, "Mom, what do I do now?"

Has it ever happened that you're in the middle of something and that's precisely when your child decides he needs your attention? 

Has it happened that your children want to do some activity but you're drawing a blank?

I bet it has happened to you...on more than one occasion! 

This has become especially apparent during the Covid-19 induced quarantine. There are plenty of moments in the day when the kids are dawdling around the house, feeling like they want to do something but don't know what. Furthermore, as a mom working from home, I am not necessarily able to be with them all day. Yet, I feel like I need to have a ready supply of ideas to pull out of my hat! Wouldn't it be nice to create a setup where our children can take the initiative themselves to decide what they want to do as an activity? Well, this is what prompted me to make the "Boredom Buster Box" aka Krishnav's Idea Box aka WDID Box (*WDID = What Do I Do?). 

What is it?
It is essentially a jar filled with small folded-up strips of paper which contain ideas of activities, big and small. Whenever my son wants to do something, he can just reach inside the jar and pull out 1 or more strips of paper. The intent is for him to seek ideas for independent play and creative activities, especially if Mama is busy or indisposed. 

What are the ideas you have dropped inside the jar?
Well, this is precisely the purpose of this post. The Boredom Buster Box has been quite effective and useful so I'd love to share the ideas with you all. The ideas are a mix of my own plus that of my 6.5 year old son. We created it together as a mini project in itself. 

Here goes the list (organized according to different topics/themes but essentially all thrown together into the jar):

Lego-related challenges (I got a lot of inspo from Little Bins for Little Hands)
  • Use Legos to create a catapult
  • Make a Lego maze
  • Create your initials using Legos
  • Make a Lego zipline
  • Create a model of your room using Legos
  • Lego symmetry: Set up one side of the baseplate with an abstract image and have your child copy the same design using the principles of symmetry)
An actual functioning catapult engineered by my son
(with some help from Little Bins from Little Hands website)

Math riddles
  • Math art: refer to this Zyndtel Design for printouts which we liked
  • Include a few fun math brain teasers that are age-appropriate
Arts and Crafts
  • Refer to a YouTube art channel for a tutorial on drawing your favorite cartoon character
  • Create your own Sistine Chapel like Michelangelo - stick an empty paper under the table and create your own artwork under the table
My Michelangelo working on his masterpiece 
Writing
  • Write a nonfiction story about any topic (or assign a specific topic)
  • Write 5 sentences about _______
  • Write a poem about ________.

Refer to books and activities you have at home (sometimes they just need to be reminded of what
they have already)
  • Read a few pages from so-and-so book or do the read-aloud from the Epic app 
  • Do a puzzle or make your own DIY puzzle 
  • Play Bingo! 
  • Play with your Beyblades 
  • Pull out your boardgame (e.g, Connect-4, Snakes & Ladders, Uno, etc)
Printables (printed and kept at a designated place for your child to easily access when needed)
  • Spot the difference printables (here and here)
  • Free coloring sheets (many sources out there, for example try this link from Little Bins for Little Hands)
Exercise
  • Do 10 jumping jacks, 4 burpees, 5 push-ups (repeat 3 times!) 
  • Ball catching practice against the wall
  • Do Cosmic Yoga on YouTube
Others
  • A to Z scavenger hunt: find items around the house starting with each letter of the alphabet
  • Create your own scavenger hunt for your parents!
  • Line up wooden blocks and then create the domino effect
  • Call up any of your family members for a quick chat (grandparents, friends) - I recommend Caribu app which is like Zoom for kids
  • Create your own campsite with a makeshift tent
  • Make your own riddles to ask Mom and Dad
There are endless possibilities! Hopefully this gives you ideas to keep your kids busy and out of your hair when needed! Of course, feel free to adapt to your child's age level, and please do share any ideas you might have as well. And if you liked this post, please share with your friends as well.

Cheers!

Whichever part of the world we’re in right now, as parents we are all on the same boat with regards to our children. It’s probably never been tougher to be a parent during these trying times when we are under some form of isolation due to Covid-19. How do we keep our children busy, happy, and entertained during these long hours of being indoors? One week into our lockdown situation in Singapore, I was already tearing my hair out! It is then that I started forming ideas on how to create a routine for my kids. In this post today, I’d like to share one of the ideas that has been very successful for us five weeks into our “iso life”.

What is the idea?
I instituted something called the “Grandparent Academy”. The concept is simple: I set up time for the grandparents to teach something to my children five days a week at a specific time of day. It is built into their daily schedule and something they look forward to! Of course, this idea can easily be applied to other family members like older cousins, aunts, or uncles living far away.

Why it worked for us

The secret sauce is basically that it is a win-win situation for everyone involved! For my kids, it is a way for them to learn something new or interesting from someone other than their teacher or parents. For the grandparents, it is a way to interact with their grandchildren while also staying connected to family far away. For us parents, it’s an hour of our day free of the kids, allowing us to work or take a break. The bonding over these 5 weeks of Grandparent Academy has been incredibly heartwarming to see! I dare say, my older one has learned more from these sessions than from school remote learning itself!

How to implement it
- Start off with 20-30 mins sessions and increase the length of time as needed (depending on age and attention level of your child)
- It's good to plan out topics in advance for the week ahead. That way, the grandparents (or whoever is teaching) can think about the topic and how they want to teach it. In our case, the grandparents found fun YouTube videos or photos as visual aids for these sessions. It's really cute to see how they get into it!
- Keep the topics varied and diverse. Also ask what your child would like to learn more about!
- Follow the child's lead - if they are asking questions and seem engaged, that's a great sign! If you happen to go off on a tangent, don't sweat it. The intent is to have a session to talk and discuss about things - not a rigid learning structure per se
- Introduce surprise guests to mix things up! Even though it's called "Grandparent Academy", we've had older cousins, aunts, and uncles come to teach as well!

Topics we have explored so far
I had talked about Grandparent Academy on my Instagram and have received numerous messages from people who have also adopted this idea with great success. The question I receive frequently is: what are the topics you cover during these sessions? Well, these sessions are geared more towards my 6.5 year old son so the topics I share below are relevant to the 5-7 age group. Having said that, hopefully these ideas inspire you to come up with topics that are suitable for your child or to adopt a modified level of these topics.

  • How does a car work?
  • Space related topics
    • Solar system and the different planets
    • How a rocket launches into outer space
    • Cycles of the moon
    • Solar and lunar eclipses
  • How to solve a rubik’s cube
  • Answering fun riddles together (here's a link)
  • Learning about cricket (or any sport that is of interest to your child)
  • Learning about an animal of choice (we've covered cheetahs so far)
  • Mythology
    • Dush Avatar (learning about the different avatars of Lord Vishnu over each session)
    • Ramayan stories
    • Mahabharat stories
  • History of India
    • Stories from the Independence Movement (like Salt March)
    • Famous characters and personalities - Jhasi ki Rani, Tipu Sultan, Mahatma Gandhi, etc 
  • Math: Math made fun in daily life
  • Learning to tell time on an analog clock
  • Spelling bee
  • Learning about continents and oceans
  • Reading a book together online
  • Trivia Quiz (many websites but here is one)
  • Learning or practicing a language (in our case, we do Hindi and Thai)
  • Learning about flags of the world - what do the colors represent, etc
  • Reading and discussing poems and learning how recite them expressively 
  • Learning about a specific country (so far we have started with India and the USA)
  • Reverse sharing time: The child teaches or presents something they want to talk about
Other topics I've heard from those who tried out "Grandparent Academy" were: Morse code, science-related topics, inventions and how they came to be, cowboys, Harry Potter, lifecycle of a particular animal, and animal habitats.

If you do decide to try this out, do drop me a line and let me know how it worked for you! I would also love to hear about the topics you covered. 

Good luck!
Munching away on the sweet potato pancakes from Fusspot & Foodie
With the end of August fast approaching, it’s “back to school” season! I can’t believe that my older son is almost 5 and will be starting kindergarten! The start of the new school year is upon us, and I’m already in “mom preparation mode” for Krishnav’s daily school lunch box. As a working mom, I don’t have the time to necessarily cook everything, nor would I like to send him with too many processed, packaged foods. Like any mom, I fret about what my son will eat and whether he will eat enough in school. What food items are easy to prepare and uncomplicated to eat? Which snacks are healthy but still delicious for him? 

Fusspot & Foodie has been the convenient solution I was looking for. Probably the only meal kit and catering setup in Singapore designed specifically for kids, Fusspot & Foodie provides healthy, wholesome, kid-friendly meals and snack options. The food items are planned and cooked using fresh ingredients. As a parent, all I need to think about is going on the Fusspot & Foodie website and picking out what I’d like to order as and when I need it (food arrives 1 week from the time order is placed). I first learned about Fusspost & Foodie through their Instagram and fell in love with their fun food creations and recipe ideas. Since then, I have met and spoken to Founder and Head Chef Tanya Soman who is extremely passionate about her business and the idea of building a healthy and positive approach to eating in children. I’ve had the chance to order a few meal kits for Krishnav to try and he’s given it a thumbs-up (no mean feat for a “fusspot”!). As it turns out, even my 13-month old has enjoyed munching on the foods we’ve ordered.
The blackbean brownies are a favorite in our household!
So what have we tried and liked? We’ve ordered the blackbean brownie and sweet potato pancakes (both of which are a particular favorite among my boys!), fish patties, homemade hummus, pasta sauce, and falafel. I can’t wait to try their Superfood Chocolate Sauce next. Made with organic cacao (hello antioxidants!), organic cold pressed extra virgin coconut oil (healthy fats and naturally antibacterial) and organic Australian honey,it sounds divine! I know Krishnav would love it with his pancakes, added to his milk for flavoring, or drizzled over fruit kebobs!

I’m sure us moms can all find ways to make our lives a little more manageable. Having a few healthy options for snacks or meals ready in the fridge has been a lifesaver for us. Definitely recommend trying it out.

Fusspot & Foodie also provides catering for kids birthday parties. Says Tanya Soman, “Deep fried snacks, high sugar treats and empty calorie sweet beverages are the standard items at children's parties today. Fusspot & Foodie wants to change the way kids eat at parties. Our menu's are proof that 'party food' doesn't have to be 'junk food'. It can be made with fresh veggies, fruit & whole-grains while being creative and fun so kids truly enjoy it!”

You can use the discount code URBANMANTRA10 to get 10% off one item on www.FusspotandFoodie.com. Happy, healthy eating!



The two pictures above were provided courtesy of Fusspot & Foodie.
I’ve always touted Singapore as an extremely kid-friendly place to live. Indeed, the mere presence of clean and inviting nursing rooms in every mall, the abundance of indoor play areas for children, and the emphasis placed upon providing educational and social learnings for children here is commendable.

Recently, while flipping through the vast collection of photos amassed on my iPhone from the last three years, I realized I’ve done my fair share of exploring places and exposing my kids to different experiences around town. This virtual trip down memory lane inspired me to put these experiences “down on paper” as a blog post – essentially, my own personal list of go-to places around town for my children. If it happens to spark ideas of places to go for my readers or benefits families making plans to visit Singapore, then all the better!

Note: The list I made below is by no means exhaustive and is in no specific order. Do note that it doesn’t include indoor or outdoor playareas, which is a list in and of itself.

So here goes…

1. ArtScience Museum: This is probably amongst my son’s favorite places to visit. “Future World” is a permanent exhibit that provides an immersive high-tech, interactive experience for children. I know that sounds pretty abstract but trust me when I say that it is worth taking your child there for an incredible experience into a world of art-meets-science. A recent exhibit called “Treasures of the Natural World” borrows artifacts from the Natural History Museum in London to take you on a journey back into the era of Charles Darwin and his study of Galapagos turtles and when dodo birds.


2. McRitchie Reservoir: Outdoor exploration is such an important part of play. I have always enjoyed bringing Krishnav here ever since he was 2 years old. The monkeys which roam freely (caution: never bring food in front of these creatures who won’t think twice before snatching your bag of chips), the open green space, and the view of the reservoir are all so refreshing. You can even do short treks with the kids, including the McRitchie Treetop Walk, a well-known freestanding suspension bridge between the two highest points in the Central Catchment.
 


3. Visit the Central Fire Station on Hill Street: Every Saturday between 9-11am, the Central Fire Station on Hill Street holds an open house for kids to come visit their premises. What a treat for the little ones who get to climb and sit inside fire trucks and ambulances and do pretend play! The friendly firefighters here also give a tour of their facilities and a demo on how they respond to emergencies, including use of their giant fire hose to put out fires!



4. Visit Little India and its temples: Regardless of whether your child is Indian or not, a visit to Little India is sure to provide an immersive cultural experience for your child. On a regular day, you can take your child to one of the temples which are rich in eye-catching works of art and carvings depicting scenes form Hindu mythology. During the Hindu festivals, such as Diwali or Pongal, festive street stalls pop up in certain areas and the entire length of Serangoon Road is decorated with lights and colorful banners.



5. Singapore Flyer: Admittedly, it’s a somewhat costly ride, but I believe everyone should do it at least once during their time in Singapore. After all, it’s an integral part of the skyline. Why not experience it up close? You get an incredible view of the ocean below and the view of downtown Singapore. The kids quite like the experience of it.


6. Gardens by the Bay: This place is a must-visit for any local or tourist. For kids, it’s a gold mine of activities to do! Let’s see…there is the water sprinkler park, the outdoor kids play area in the sand, a mini Cactus Garden and aquarium, the magnificent Super Groves and the Domes (Flower Dome and Cloud Forest). What’s not to love?

7. Marina Barrage: Just a short walk down from Gardens by the Bay is a little hilltop and one of my favorite corners of Singapore. Arguably the southwestern-most point of the island, Marina Barrage provides a view of the sea on one side and a view of the Singapore skyline on the other. We love coming here for picnics and kite-flying. Invariably, there is someone ever willing to help us out as we often fumble and struggle to get our kites up!


8. Biking along the East Coast: Rent a bike from one of the many locations (Greenland Park is one of them) and cruise around with your little one on the back. I love bringing my son (and friends visiting from out-of-town) for a reasonably active and fun outing. Something about the view of the palm trees lining the streets, the beach, and families hanging out here really makes me happy!


9. Murals, anybody?: I’m a huge fan of artist Yip Yew Chong’s murals and have taken Krishnav to see the ones on Everton Road (known as the Everton Murals) and Tiong Bahru. He has a lot more murals in other locations which you can find out about here and I personally have written about them here.  It’s a great way to expose the kids to art that tells stories and to ignite conversation on what they see and think…for free!


10. Kid-friendly animal farms around Singapore? Yes, it actually exists. I’ve actually written a whole article on this topic and you can read all about it here on Sassy Mama!

The remaining 10 items on this list will be continued in part II of this series...Stay tuned!



New York City holds a special place in my heart. Among the many reasons is that it’s the city where I had my first baby. There are certain memories of my time there as a new mom which I will never forget. Little moments in time which Krishnav will never remember but are ingrained in my mind. Visits to the Central Park Zoo where I pointed out penguins to him, stroller rides along a crowded Times Square, taking him to our neighborhood café on a cold, blustery November evening…

You can imagine then how I loved the book Big Apple Kid. Written and illustrated by a very talented Kavita Rajput, this children’s book brings back warm nostalgic feelings of my time in NYC with Krishnav before I moved to Singapore. The author, who is now based in Singapore, conceived the book when she herself was a mom living in Manhattan with her baby boy seven years ago. It has been quite an incredible journey for her to bring the book to life but the result is an endearing and loveable children’s book. With its watercolor illustrations capturing familiar and iconic images of Manhattan across different seasons and its sweet rhythmic rhymes, this book is appropriate for any kid up to age 4-5. And if your kid just happens to be a New Yorker, by birth or residence, then it’s a must to add this book to their collection!

If you are in Singapore, do support your locally published books and authors/artists. You can find out more about this book and the author at www.bigcitykidbooks.com. Get a copy for your kid today!



Do you ever feel like the more globalized we become in our world, the more distant we seem to get from our roots and culture? Growing up in Thailand, I have fond memories of reading Amar Chitra Katha (tales of Indian mythology) and listening with rapt attention to the epic stories of the Ramayan and Mahabharat as told by my mother. Our cultural stories, whether they were gleaned off books or recited verbally, were the key that transported me to another world and time. I may not have realized it at that age but these stories and mythologies cultivated in me an awareness and an appreciation of for rich cultural values, religion, and heritage.

Fast forward decades later...Living in Singapore now, I try to make a conscious effort to keep my own son in touch with his Indian language, culture and heritage. Among the many ways I do so is through the power and magic of books. I've acquired a mini-collection of storybooks by Indian authors who are attempting to bring the same stories that we grew up with in a fun, vibrant, and more relatable way for younger children. Below are some of my top picks of Indian cultural storybooks for kids (age range 3+).

1. Meet My Hindu Gods by Reena Puri and Mital Telhan: This book is among my faves! It serves as a great introductory book to the Hindu gods for the little ones (toddlers/preschoolers). I have to commend the book for its adorable illustrations of Hindu gods and its simplistic yet meaningful description of what each god represents. Krishna, Ganesh, Hanuman, Saraswati, Ram & Sita... they're all there! Do check out desibabiesonline.com to learn more about how to get the book along with other fun stuff, such as My First Indian Coloring Book (I have that too!). For all our Singapore readers and friends: The authors Reena and Mital were kind enough to offer a heavy discount shipping rate to Singapore so please do contact me if you're interested! 

2. Hurray for Diwali by Anita Raina Thapan: My 3.5 year old has made me read this book so many times that he can almost recite the book by heart. The book gives me nostalgia of my own childhood memories of Diwali, capturing the excitement of lighting firecrackers and receiving sweets and gifts on this special festival. At the same time, the book reminds us of the importance of family and of sharing & giving on this occasion. I would say this book is appropriate for ages 3 and up.

3. Ganesha's Sweet Tooth by Sanjay Patel and Emily Haynes: Bright, eye-catching colors leap off the page in this zany book that relates the story of how Ganesha broke his tusk and eventually came to write the epic story of the Mahabharat. The book isn't entirely based on the original mythology as the authors lend their own twist to the story. Funny and entertaining for sure! This book is suitable for preschoolers up to those in grade 3.

4. Little Hanuman by Anita Raina Thapan: Another book by the same author as Hurray for Diwali, this one retells the story of little Hanuman. As the son of the Wind God Vayu, he used his might and powers for playful and naughty tricks as a child (remember the story about how he ate the sun thinking it was a juicy mango?). My son thoroughly enjoys listening to the funny antics of little Hanuman described in the book. Ultimately, the book connects the story back to how little Hanuman eventually grew up to become the greatest devotee of Ram. Appropriate for ages 3 and up.

5. Amma Tell Me series by Bhakti Mathur: The author decided to create this book series when she struggled to find books on Hindu mythology and festivals for her own children. While I only have one of the books from the series (on Hanuman), there are several more on the different Hindu festivals and Hindu gods. The book is suitable for children ages 3-9.

What are your favorite Indian storybooks for your children? Please do share, I would love to know!
If you’re living in Manhattan, you know that children are rare sightings. I’ve gotten so used to seeing adults wherever I go that when I do see a bunch of kids or a baby in a stroller, I’m thrown off! Exaggerations aside, it’s not often that I frequent places in the city with heavy kid traffic. But this past Saturday, I found myself at the Tribeca Family Festival Street Fair (organized by the Tribeca Film Festival).

How did I find myself at a street fair for children, you ask? With my little niece and nephew in town, I knew the usual touristy activities that I recommend to visiting friends wouldn’t do (read: no shopping in SoHo, or visiting a rooftop restaurant or hanging out in the Lower East Side!). Luckily the events calendar on the Yelp! pages came in handy and the Tribeca Street Festival seemed like the perfect place to take the little kids. Upon arriving, it took a moment to adjust to seeing tons of little children running around everywhere. The familiar cobblestone streets of Tribeca, where one usually goes to enjoy a fancy “grown-up” brunch or dinner at a trendy spot, had transformed into bustling street fair. 
 
With numerous activities for children such as face painting, kite making, arts and crafts, acrobatic performances and storytelling, my niece and nephew had a whale of a time. Swayed by the lively atmosphere and the laughter and excitement of children, I soon found myself succumbing to my inner child. If you saw someone going crazy over the “Decorate Your Own Cupcake” booth, that was probably me. And if you saw grown-ups in the “Bubble Garden” blowing giant soap bubbles, I was likely one of them. By the time we left the street fair, my niece and nephew were tired from the excitement of the day but happy. As for me, I thought of how refreshing it was to experience NYC through a different perspective…and to be a kid again, if only for a few hours.

Street performers and cupcake decorating
Acrobat shows, food trucks, and kiddy play areas
Hula hoop lady with mad skills
 What about you, readers? Which children's activities do you enjoy doing even now?